Entry # 16

To date or not to date: that is the question.                                    
           If you were to ask my opinion regarding dating in the workplace, I am appalled by it. Yes, I believe in love - in fact, I am a romantic -  but I do not believe that it will bring any good to the workplace. I’m saying this because I believe that personal relationships must not mix or interfere with business relationships. And I guess, I’m choosing to follow the line of the 12% of workplaces that simply prohibit workplace dating. However, I do not believe that the decision I should make is to fire the pair immediately.
          Yes, we can say that not all relationships end in bad terms, but we can’t say that it will hold true for all relationships in case a company does allow workplace dating. When these relationships do end in bad terms, imagine how they will interact with each other when they work in the same place? This might result to poorer performance and they might get emotionally stressed. They won’t be able to avoid each other even if they wanted to.
          Then there is the issue of the employer-employee relationship. Relationships like these are very controversial because employees are put in a position where people think they did that in order to get the job or get promoted – which may or may not be the case for some. When rumors like these spread around, the image of the employee and the company is ruined. Furthermore, employees might lose respect for their employers/bosses. They would think, “Why would we need guidance from someone who gets fooled easily?” or “I can’t respect someone who dates colleagues the same level as we are.”
          In case I am the boss and I implement the no dating in the workplace policy but I catch my employees and/or their bosses dating each other, I would not think twice about it: I will either fire the pair or separate them into two different departments. I know that there are desires we can not control. But in order to enable a pair to work efficiently and comfortably, I will most likely separate them into different departments. However, if they did something that has put my company at stake, I will not hesitate to fire them both (especially if they are not great assets to the company.)

          In the end, I believe that there are relationships that work both for business and personal relations. It is not in my place to tell whether these relationships will end up in marriage or whatnot. I do not want to deprive them of the chance to find out whether they will find the love they’ve always wanted to have with each other. But, as an employer/manager, it is also my job to think of their well-being, the effect of their relationship in the workplace, and the risks I am putting my business into. I guess the most important thing to do is to take action immediately. As to what action I will take, I will base it on the information I have gotten and on instinct. That is all that I have to say about workplace dating.

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